One Saturday in August nearly 25 years ago, I was playing golf with my friend, John Gregorits, at Flanders Valley GC in Morris County, NJ.  John was a fine golfer, who usually beat me like a drum, even when I played well.  But that day, although he got ahead by two holes after we’d played only three holes, I played steady, if unspectacular golf, and he didn’t play well at all.  I cleaned his clock, shooting 87 to his 93 – and he’d given me two strokes a side.

It was the worst I had ever seen John score; but he just kept plugging away.  When he hit it in the woods, he just went after it and whacked it back out.  He never complained.  John kept plugging along, in spite of whatever frustration he may have been feeling.  He just kept after it, and was good company in spite of what, for him, was awful golf. (He usually scored 80 or lower.)

After the round John told me, “I could try to shoot low scores every time I play.  But sometimes, like today, I want to hit certain kinds of good shots.  I want to shape tees shots with the curve of the fairway, fade or draw approach shots to the green around rather than over bunkers, and get really creative on little pitch and chip shots. If the shots workout as planned, that’s great.   If not, no big deal.  I’m out here to have fun, and today, fun for me is more about ‘good shots’ than ‘low score.’”

OK, so what did I learn?  Maybe I had been fooling myself about golf.  I had been thinking that it was all about results, and “who I am” was measured by accomplishments, like golf scores.  As if I were a more worthwhile human being if I could say, “ I am a six handicap” instead of “ I play to a twelve handicap.”

That day I started learning that it’s not what score I write that’s the measure of what kind of person I am.  It’s not that at all.  It’s whether I enjoy the Game of Golf [whichever Game of Golf I happen to be playing that day], and my playing partners; the beauty of the golf course; the thrill of good shots and the challenge of recovery from bad shots.

I began to realize that maybe the same is true for the Game of Life.  Every time I play golf, I have a choice.  I can choose to feel good about the game, and myself, or I can choose to feel lousy.  Every day I wake up and I have a choice.  I can choose to feel good about life, and myself, or I can choose to feel lousy.  Why choose to feel lousy?

 

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5 Responses to The Games of Golf

  1. Joe Cardini says:

    Hey Dave. Love this topic as, while I believe sport of all kind is a terrific metaphor for life, none are more so than is the game of golf. Have you read the book by Dr. David Cook, entitled Golf’s Sacred Journey: 7 Days in Utopia? An incredible dive into the game, and a far deeper dive into the greater Game of Life. They are putting the book on the big screen and I believe it will be released later this year! If this book hasn’t found its’ way into your hands yet, I would suggest taking the time track it down. You won’t be disappointed! Best of luck with the blog… Joe

    • Dave Franzetta says:

      Joe, Hadn’t heard about Dr. Cook’s book, but will definitely check it out. Meanwhile, stay tuned for more on the subject.
      -Dave

      • Joe Cardini says:

        Dave, if you haven’t already done so, visit this website: http://www.linksofutopia.com/cms/. You’ll be able to learn a great deal about the book, Dr. Cook himself, the soon to be released movie and the bigger picture behind it all… good stuff! Enjoy.
        Joe

      • Rudi Floyd says:

        Dave, I bought a carton of the books as give-aways. If you want one I’d love to send it out to you. — Rudi

        • Dave Franzetta says:

          Absolutely. Thanks for thinking of me. I look forward to getting the book and learning more about Golf, and Life.

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